Can you just get over it?!

Last Saturday was graduation at my alma mater and so I went to support my Sorors. Afterwards, we always congregate and sing songs to commemorate their accomplishments. On this day, I happened to look over and see someone who I attended school with but had not seen in years. She and I didn't end our last conversation on a positive note and she was with people whom I don't associate with at all....on ANY level. I dismissed the thought and kept on moving. Later on, I noticed I had received a text message from someone. I read it; low & behold it was the girl I had gone to school with. First thought....this is so suspicious. Just what the hell does she have to say? Ok, just read it and if you choose, respond...or don't. Seems genuine but I still have my doubts; I mean you are the company you keep. Ok let's play it cool. Hello. You saw me? At graduation? Still not really sure but let's see. Alright, you seem to have grown up and moved on. How on earth did you get my number? Are you FREAKIN kidding me?! Wow, I'm speechless. Moving along...The conversation continued. Later on that night I had some drama and was dealing with it when my phone rang unknown. Of course I answer because I believe it's the person I've been calling. Wrong! At this point I'm pissed because you've called my phone not to mention I'm the deep throes of some major issues and you call with drama! Fast forward to Monday and I'm still dealing with my issues. I get a phone call and by now I am pissed to high heaven! So naturally I go back to the person who was initiator. As polite as possible I let her know I can't do it. I hear you saying your intentions were good however all of this back and forth, I can't and won't do it. Thank you goodbye. Moments later my phone rings and she wants to discuss the message. That's fine, let's discuss it. At the end of the conversation I was still a little hesitant about allowing her back into my life as a friend. Over the past couple of years I've trusted those not in my inner circle less and less and just kept to myself. Somehow because of one person my name is always involved in some drama. When do you grow up? When do you say enough is enough? We don't talk in at all yet and still you still find ways and come up with gimmicks to contact me! It's over and done with. As I started writing this entry my question was when do people grow up and move on. I just received some words of encouragement that states, 'Your expectation of people should never be too high. People do what they want, not what you would like. Little expectations = less disappointments." Well hot damn, I have my answer! That's my truth...

What I've Learned

This morning I was having a conversation with J & we were discussing her upcoming graduation on Saturday. Some how or another, the conversation turned to the drama unfolding. One thing that we both agreed on was how much we have changed since crossing those burning sands. At that moment I realized something...we all have changed. Now albeit some have not as of yet, the majority of us have. Some view change as being bad or uncalled for however when you take a closer look, it's not bad at all. I can honestly say since spring 2002, I have become a different person and I love it! My matriculation did not end once I walked across that stage with my degree in my right hand; at that very moment it begun. Here I was closing one chapter in my life only to start a new one. Yes there have been bumps in the road but I wouldn't change anything about my experience. I oftentimes run across people who just seem to be sitting stagnant and are okay with not moving. I've come to realize why. They feel as though their life has changed and they continue to matriculate. Totally fine with me but my question to them is, have you taken yourself outside yourself? Have you done a survey of your life thus far? We live in an age where so much of ourselves is accessible to everyone. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. It can be good because it'll give you an opportunity to step outside yourself and view your life as others view it. It becomes bad when we constantly use these entities to display our lives as if this is an exhibit. Please don't misconstrue anything I'm about to say, I am a Social Network JUNKIE!!!! I love all things social. But these displays of ignorance on the networks are getting out of control! When will adults realize Face Book does not want to know how much you hate your ex's new squeeze. Twitter doesn't care how much you dislike someone you see everyday nor do they want to read the two of you going back and forth like kids on the school-yard. Is this what we've become? A society that doesn't handle issues like 2 people should, by engaging in those heart-to-heart conversation. What if these great networks didn't exist, then how would you handle the situation? I personally am afraid of what's next. I will tell you what I've learned. I've learned that change is inevitable and needed. Being in this space today and being afforded the opportunities I have had did not happen just because I live and breathe air. It happened not only because I have changed and will continue to change and with those changes comes growth...

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